IS HAVING EGO A CRIME? NO…SOCIAL COHABITATION NEEDS A SELF IDENTIFYING PROCESS TO DISTINGUISH AN INDIVIDUAL FROM THE SOCIETY BUT SUR-DIMENSIONAL EGO IS NOT GOOD..HOW CAN WE KNOW WHETHER WE SUFFER FROM THAT?
SIMPLE: THE DEPTH OF EGO IS DIRECTLY PROPORTIONAL TO THE CAPACITY TO LISTEN (faculty of listening actively not passively) ; TO YOURSELF , TO YOUR INNER SANE VOICE, TO OTHERS .
The more the ego is controlling someone , the more he will be active in producing thoughts about himself and will have difficulties to think of others…lest listen to them ..The axis over which his world will rotate is nothing but his own person and all the perceptions of the world will be filtered through his subjective feelings and thoughts. Pure imagination will play havoc and destroy his capacity to see things as they are.
Following is a write-up from a friend: A point of view..! “We, as a society, really have no idea how *suffocated* people are in their emotions. Most people have *nobody* to express themselves entirely to. Everyone is holding back their *vulnerabilities* to maintain the *social image* of a confident and happy person.
Heart-to-heart conversations have become *rare, artificial and shallow*. And most hearts are filled with *empty defences*.
Most people can’t even talk to their *life-partners openly* for the fear of being judged or rejected. Emotions await just a release. Social images make sure weakness is not glorified.
Children have *bottled up* stress. Young people suffer anxiety and depression.
It is just lack of social support. It is *lack of non-judgmental* friendships. It is result of *fast and busy lives* where nobody has time to just sit and watch someone cry.
It is result of *instant and impatient lifestyle* practices, that *emotions have started feeling like waste of time*.
We have *WhatsApp and Facebook and social media* – and we also have *stress and anxiety and depression*.
Our forefathers had neither. Because they talked to each other. Because talking helps.
The *face-to-face* type talking, the *just-listen-to-me* type talking, the *hold-my-hand-and-let-me-cry* type talking, the *sit-next-to-me-and-listen-to-my-silence* type talking… the talking where *the person can be themselves and say anything they feel without the fear of any judgement or loss or rejection*.
Today, we don’t like that type of talking. Those conversations when someone begins to undress one’s mind. In fact we *avoid people*. And so, mental illness is epidemic. Naturally.
There is not much we can do. But we can offer a *listening*!
Let’s let people talk without any fear. Let’s create conversations.
*Let’s start talking again.”*